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Heart-Warming First Time Birth Mother Meeting

Meeting a birth mother for the first time can be overwhelming and exciting. When Jessica and Jonathan connected to their birth mom and learned that their birth mom was only a short car trip away, they immediately began planning their first visit to meet her. They planned a lovely day of meeting their birth mom, Lucia, as well as her son and her son’s aunt.

After a trip to Lucia's favorite burger place, they picked out some maternity clothes and then ended the day with a sweet treat!

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Jessica described this day as perfect. They enjoyed getting to know each other and laid the foundation for their growing family and we're already planning their next visit! Lucia had mutual feelings of joy! She expressed feeling relieved, along with a sense of peace and contentment; she now had confidence in her decision to move forward with an adoption plan! Concerns that she couldn't find a family she would trust, melted away after getting to know Jessica and Jonathan.

Thank You From Veronica and Carlos

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BA GarciaWe knew we wanted to start a family and infertility treatments did not guarantee that. Our goal was to be parents no matter how and we decided adoption was the right path for us. We are incredibly lucky that the process took us 10 months. Everyone at Everlasting Adoptions was awesome and our experience was great. We could text the Director, Carol at any time and she would respond quickly. Lisa, our Birth Mother Coordinator was our sounding board once we were connected to a birth mother. Our birth mother was unsure if she wanted to place her baby and Lisa was instrumental in calming us down and talking us through that stressful time. If we could offer other adoptive parents a word of advice, it would be to try and remain patient. When they say “it happens when you least expect it”, it is true! If you have doubts reach out to someone. It WILL happen, it is just a matter of WHEN it will happen. 

Thank You From Scott and Kirsten

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Kirsten and I had spent many years and tried many different methods to have children, but were unsuccessful. After some soul searching, we decided to pursue adoption. We would be lying if we said 30 months of waiting were not frustrating and angst filled, but in the end the wait was worth the amazing end result, our daughter Tuesday Elise. We also were able to find solace in the Everlasting Adoptions staff who were always there to ease our frustration, or answer our questions, or to just reassure us that everything we were experiencing was normal.

Since so many of the staff members at Everlasting Adoptions were adoptive parents themselves, they were able to understand our frustration and stress. They were always available and responded so quickly to our calls and texts. They aided us in meeting the birth family and helped us find lawyers. They also facilitated the first few meetings between us and the birth family.

For all prospective adoptive parents out there, try and be patient and trust the staff at Everlasting Adoptions. Be prepared to experience a total range of emotions, maintain strong communication, and be totally honest with yourself and others. If adoption is the path you have chosen, it will be worth it in the end.

Bonding with an Adopted Child

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As parents or expecting parents, we may have many concerns and worries about the upbringing of our children or future children. Where will they go to school? Will they grow up to be successful? Will they be kind and loving? As adoptive parents, we have these concerns plus others which are much more fundamental. Will my adopted child bond with me? More importantly, will I be able to bond with them? Additionally, adoptive parents who also have biological children may wonder, will I be able to love my adopted child in the same way I love my other children?

The first thing you need to know is that these are completely normal and natural feelings ANY parent experiences. Reassure yourself that you won’t be any less of a parent for having these fears. The second thing you may ask is, “How do I bond with my child?” At the most basic level, a child will form an attachment to their parent(s) if their needs are consistently met. Bonding with a child plays a crucial role in their development. The more sensitive you are to their needs, the more quickly and deeply you will bond. Children adopted as infants display no difference in their quality of attachment from nonadopted infants, according to Psychologist and author, Dr. David Brodzinsky.

Ways to strengthen the bond with your baby apply to all infants, adopted or not.

  1. Be consistent in your response to their needs.
  2. Talk to your baby and make eye contact with them.
  3. Provide as much physical contact; snuggles, hugs, kisses, as you can.
  4. Don’t neglect your own needs. Your baby will sense if you are stressed or burnt out.

You may not bond with your adopted child overnight and that is normal! Be patient with yourself and the process. Reach out to others who have been through the same situation. You will likely find out you aren’t alone. Most importantly, love your baby to the best of your ability and the rest will fall into place.

If you are interested in reading further on the topic of attachment and bonding, here are a few great places to start.

The Attachment Parenting Book : A Commonsense Guide to Understanding and Nurturing Your Baby

The Attachment Connection: Parenting a Secure and Confident Child Using the Science of Attachment Theory

The Everything Parent's Guide to Raising Your Adopted Child: A complete handbook to welcoming your adopted child into your heart and home

New Birth Announcement - Congratulations to Veronica and Carlos

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When Veronica and Carlos joined the Everlasting family in June of 2016, I don't think they realized just how quickly their lives would change! Veronica and Carlos always dreamed of having a son. When they got the call March 1st that birth mom Liz was interested in getting to know them, they couldn't believe it! 
 
This connection was serendipitous. Veronica and Carlos had just painted their nursery two weeks prior to their first contact with Liz! Liz battled with constant uncertainty about her decision to place her baby for adoption. Veronica and Carlos entered into this connection knowing that she may change her mind but pressed forward building a relationship based on complete transparency and openness with Liz. They consistently and honestly supported Liz's deep reflection on her decision. 
 
As their relationship developed and they got to know one another, Liz felt more confident that she was making the best decision possible for her and her baby boy. On March 17th around 9 am at 7 lbs 10oz and 2 weeks before his due date, Logan came into this world! Liz spent some private time with Logan before deciding to move forward. 
 
Veronica and Carlos got the call that he was here and made their way to not only meet their son but spend time with their birth mom as well! Logan was welcomed into a huge family full of love and longing! We are so grateful to have been a part of this connection. It was amazing to see this relationship grow feel the constant love and support Veronica and Carlos had for their birth mom, even though there was some uncertainty. Thank you to Liz for her honesty and openness through her own journey. Veronica and Carlos, we are so happy for you! Happy Birthday, Logan!

Blanca, Travis and Tianna's Adoption Journey Party

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We love to receive updates like this from former Everlasting families. What a special way to celebrate your beautiful family with an "Adoption Journey" party. Thank you Blanca and Travis for sharing!
 
Good Morning to you wonderful ladies.
Hope all is well on your end! It’s been a while since I sent an update on our precious girl Tianna. She’s growing up so incredibly fast it’s hard to believe she’ll be 3 in July! On Saturday we threw an “Adoption Journey” Party that celebrated the day we finalized the adoption 2 years ago today (3/20/17). Our closest friends and family came to share in our joy, they’ve been a big part of our journey from the first day we wanted to adopt. As Tianna gets older we want to show her how positive adoption is, what unconditional love and support is really about.
 
We started the party with a small ceremony where family and friends got up and said a few words of how blessed we are to have her, how much she’s changed our lives. We know as she gets older she will have plenty of questions she might not feel comfortable asking us. So we asked three of our closest friends to stand with her and accept to be fully be a part of her adoption journey and promise to always be honest with her about the adoption, and to help keep the tradition of the “Adoption Journey” Celebration going.
 
Tianna is so full of personality and very outgoing, there’s so much light that shines from her. She’s definitely daddy’s little princess and mommy’s best friend. She’s already in an early pre-school where she is learning so much and interacting with kids her own age. She absolutely is fascinated by horses and the Grinch. She still doesn’t grasp jingle bells and Santa Claus is coming to town are Christmas Carols but if she wants to be in the Christmas spirit all year long better believe we are singing with her. We truly believe we have the Best Kid Ever, she’s so funny, loving and caring and warms your heart with just a small smile.
 
As always thank you for helping to make our family complete. You truly make dreams a reality and we are forever grateful!
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