- Posted on December 15, 2017
- in Resources
Many adoptive parents struggle with feelings of grief, sadness and uncertainty before and during their adoption journey, but once a baby is placed in their arms, they embark on a new journey; one of joy and happiness. It is at this moment that birth mothers begin a very different journey of their own. Each birth mother’s experience and feelings are different, but each and every one should have access to a support system to help them navigate the road ahead. At Everlasting Adoptions, we offer a comprehensive list of local support groups to all of our birth mothers. Our birth mother consultant is also available throughout the process to provide guidance and support. Below we have compiled a list of nationwide birth mother retreats and support group.
Birth Mother Retreats
Birth mother retreats are outings of varying lengths that provide support for women who have made an adoption plan for their child. Birth mothers are provided opportunities to bond with other women in the same situation and given tools to help them cope with whatever emotions they may be feeling. Retreats can last from a couple of hours to an entire weekend. Gina Crotts, founder and president of Birth Mother Baskets, a leader at Tied at the Heart birth mother retreats and birth mother herself explains the importance of retreats and post placement support to America Adopts. “The grieving process was like nothing I had been prepared for and having someone who had been in my shoes before, could have eliminated a lot of questions and heartache that I experienced.”
Here are a few of the wonderful organizations that host birth mother retreats nationwide:
- On Your Feet Foundation hosts two, weekend-long birth mother retreats each year, one in the spring and one in the fall. Their retreats are held in Michigan City, IN.
- Tied At The Heart hosts a weekend retreat that includes accommodations, food and workshops. Their 2018 retreats will be March 8 -11th in St. George, UT and September 6-9th in Bear Lake, UT. Follow their Facebook page to stay up to date with retreat information.
- Birthmother Bridge Ministries hosts a weekend retreat at no cost to birth mothers. All meals are also provided. Their fall retreat was held in Midland, TX. Check their website for 2018 dates.
- Concerned United Birthparents, Inc. hosts a yearly retreat that is open to birth parents, as well as, adoptees, adoptive parents and others affected by adoption. Their 2018 retreat will take place in Safety Harbor, FL from October 6-8th.
- Catholic Charities of Wisconsin hosts a day retreat for birth mothers at any stage in their adoption journey. Check their website for 2018 retreat information and dates.
Local Groups and Post Placement Support
A retreat may be too pricey, not practical or too much of a commitment for some birth mothers. A local or online support group is a great place to look for post placement support. BraveLove.org has put together this comprehensive list of recommended post-adoption support groups and retreats around the country.
For birth mothers looking for an online support group where they can connect with others from the comfort of their own homes, America Adopts has put together an online support group directory.
We need to educate birth parents on the resources available to them; whether it be retreats, support groups or online communities. It is crucial that those of us in the adoption community recognize the need for post placement support for birth mothers. Their adoption journey doesn’t end the day their babies are placed, in fact the most difficult part of their journey has just begun. If you are a birth mother at any point in her adoption journey and are interested in learning more about the adoption process or support options, please contact Everlasting Adoptions at 866.406.2702.
- Posted on November 28, 2017
- in Birthmother Experiences
Birth mother, Jazmyn chose to have an adoption plan because she knew she wouldn’t be able to provide for a child. She knew there was family out there that would provide the love and support a child needed and deserved. Jazmyn already had the support of birth father, CJ. She reached out to Everlasting Adoptions to help her find a potential adoptive parent. She was overwhelmed by the support that Everlasting provided every step of the way. She was so appreciative of the staff, especially birth mother coordinator, Lisa who constantly reached out to her to provide guidance and offer help. When she matched with Nichelle, they shared an instant connection. Jazmyn knew she had made the right decision because Nichelle was very open and amazing. Nichelle made her feel great about her decision and was there for her during every step of the process. Nichelle and Jazmyn were even able to meet in person, which confirmed their decision. Jazmyn’s advice to other birth parents is if your heart is telling you that you are making the right decision, you should follow your heart. She wouldn’t change any decision she made because she knows in her heart it was for the best.
- Posted on November 21, 2017
- in Everlasting Birth Announcements
Sometimes adoptive parents have a failed adoption before they meet the baby meant to be theirs and Nichelle was no exception. This time in 2016, Nichelle had never dreamed that she would be holding her precious baby boy as the holiday season approached. After dealing with the absolutely crushing news that a birth mom she was previously matched to had decided to parent, Nichelle bravely stepped her toes back in the waters of waiting for a birth mom. After some short connections that didn’t work out, Nichelle was matched with birth parents Jazmyn and CJ. After meeting in person Nichelle felt confident that this was her match.
She continued to get to know Jaz & CJ and built their relationship. Jazmyn was induced on Halloween and that afternoon, along with one very excited grandma, Victor was welcomed to the world with a blanket of love and joy from his mom, grandma and birth parents. The perseverance and determination to be a mom pushed Nichelle through the ups and downs of her adoption journey. We admire the courage it took to continue to open up and put herself out there. We are forever grateful for the selfless act of love that was made by CJ and Jaz as they considered the future of their son. Congratulations, Nichelle! You certainly have the cutest pumpkin in the patch!
- Posted on November 17, 2017
- in Everlasting Birth Announcements
Brian and Sara rang in 2017 with the exciting decision to begin their adoption journey with Everlasting and boy oh boy will they be ending 2017 with a bang! When Brian and Sara received the news that birth mom Kelly was interested in getting to know them, the news was overwhelming and exciting at the same time! The first connection with a birth mom is always a bit overwhelming, but Everlasting guided them through their first contact and early communications. As the bond between the 3 grew, the excitement of baby’s impending arrival filled Sara and Brian with pure joy. While Kelly was scheduled for a C-Section mid November, Anderson had different plans! Kelly called Sara on November 3rd with the news that she was certain she was in labor. Brian and Sara packed up and took a red eye to Ohio. At 9:22 a.m. their lives changed forever. Waiting anxiously just a few rooms over, several minutes after being born, Anders met his mommy and daddy! While Brian and Sara were confident in Kelly’s decision, the 72 hours waiting for Kelly to sign her consents were long. This new family spent time together making sure that everyone felt supported. Just 4 days after going into labor, thanks to a speedy legal process, Brian and Sara were off on their new adventure as parents! Sara and Brian said that the connection with Kelly was divine and something they will treasure and cherish forever. We are all beyond blessed and hold dear to our hearts the confidence that Brian and Sara placed with us to build their family as well as the trust Kelly had in Everlasting to aid in her adoption plan. Congratulatulations, Brian, Sara & Anderson!
- Posted on November 8, 2017
- in Everlasting Birth Announcements
Many people have stories about the ups and downs of their adoption journey and Paul and Diana are no exception. Paul and Diana experienced the heartbreak and devastation that came with a failed adoption; despite the pain and despair they went through, they never lost hope that the birth mom that was meant to be theirs was out there. When they connected with their birth mom, Alicia for the first time, they were cautious but overjoyed. Like many adoptions, this connection had a rocky start but as time went on, Paul, Diana and Alicia developed a strong and unique bond. Paul and Diana’s family grew to be much bigger than just a new baby. When sweet Joseph was born in October, their hearts were full and appreciation for their birth mother grew more intense than ever! Paul and Diana have been through so much on their adoption journey. Serving and accompanying them on their journey has been one of our biggest joys. We could not be happier for Everlasting’s newest family! Congratulations to all!