- Posted on April 14, 2017
- in Birthmother Experiences
Meeting a birth mother for the first time can be overwhelming and exciting. When Jessica and Jonathan connected to their birth mom and learned that their birth mom was only a short car trip away, they immediately began planning their first visit to meet her. They planned a lovely day of meeting their birth mom, Lucia, as well as her son and her son’s aunt.
After a trip to Lucia's favorite burger place, they picked out some maternity clothes and then ended the day with a sweet treat!
Jessica described this day as perfect. They enjoyed getting to know each other and laid the foundation for their growing family and we're already planning their next visit! Lucia had mutual feelings of joy! She expressed feeling relieved, along with a sense of peace and contentment; she now had confidence in her decision to move forward with an adoption plan! Concerns that she couldn't find a family she would trust, melted away after getting to know Jessica and Jonathan.
- Posted on April 12, 2017
- in Success Stories
We knew we wanted to start a family and infertility treatments did not guarantee that. Our goal was to be parents no matter how and we decided adoption was the right path for us. We are incredibly lucky that the process took us 10 months. Everyone at Everlasting Adoptions was awesome and our experience was great. We could text the Director, Carol at any time and she would respond quickly. Lisa, our Birth Mother Coordinator was our sounding board once we were connected to a birth mother. Our birth mother was unsure if she wanted to place her baby and Lisa was instrumental in calming us down and talking us through that stressful time. If we could offer other adoptive parents a word of advice, it would be to try and remain patient. When they say “it happens when you least expect it”, it is true! If you have doubts reach out to someone. It WILL happen, it is just a matter of WHEN it will happen.
- Posted on April 6, 2017
- in Success Stories
Kirsten and I had spent many years and tried many different methods to have children, but were unsuccessful. After some soul searching, we decided to pursue adoption. We would be lying if we said 30 months of waiting were not frustrating and angst filled, but in the end the wait was worth the amazing end result, our daughter Tuesday Elise. We also were able to find solace in the Everlasting Adoptions staff who were always there to ease our frustration, or answer our questions, or to just reassure us that everything we were experiencing was normal.
Since so many of the staff members at Everlasting Adoptions were adoptive parents themselves, they were able to understand our frustration and stress. They were always available and responded so quickly to our calls and texts. They aided us in meeting the birth family and helped us find lawyers. They also facilitated the first few meetings between us and the birth family.
For all prospective adoptive parents out there, try and be patient and trust the staff at Everlasting Adoptions. Be prepared to experience a total range of emotions, maintain strong communication, and be totally honest with yourself and others. If adoption is the path you have chosen, it will be worth it in the end.
- Posted on April 2, 2017
- in Resources
As parents or expecting parents, we may have many concerns and worries about the upbringing of our children or future children. Where will they go to school? Will they grow up to be successful? Will they be kind and loving? As adoptive parents, we have these concerns plus others which are much more fundamental. Will my adopted child bond with me? More importantly, will I be able to bond with them? Additionally, adoptive parents who also have biological children may wonder, will I be able to love my adopted child in the same way I love my other children?
The first thing you need to know is that these are completely normal and natural feelings ANY parent experiences. Reassure yourself that you won’t be any less of a parent for having these fears. The second thing you may ask is, “How do I bond with my child?” At the most basic level, a child will form an attachment to their parent(s) if their needs are consistently met. Bonding with a child plays a crucial role in their development. The more sensitive you are to their needs, the more quickly and deeply you will bond. Children adopted as infants display no difference in their quality of attachment from nonadopted infants, according to Psychologist and author, Dr. David Brodzinsky.
Ways to strengthen the bond with your baby apply to all infants, adopted or not.
- Be consistent in your response to their needs.
- Talk to your baby and make eye contact with them.
- Provide as much physical contact; snuggles, hugs, kisses, as you can.
- Don’t neglect your own needs. Your baby will sense if you are stressed or burnt out.
You may not bond with your adopted child overnight and that is normal! Be patient with yourself and the process. Reach out to others who have been through the same situation. You will likely find out you aren’t alone. Most importantly, love your baby to the best of your ability and the rest will fall into place.
If you are interested in reading further on the topic of attachment and bonding, here are a few great places to start.
- Posted on March 28, 2017
- in Everlasting Birth Announcements
- Posted on March 22, 2017
- in Everlasting Family Updates