Deb & Lee
Race of child interested in adopting:No Preference
Gender of child interested in adopting:No Preference
Thank you for reading our profile and getting to know us during this very difficult time for you. Our names our Deb and Lee, and we have a four year old daughter named Anna. Anna is our miracle and the best thing we have ever done. Unfortunately, after three years of infertility treatments, the doctors have told us that we have less than a 1% chance of having another biological child- that is why we are hoping you consider us as a family for your child. We both grew up with siblings who we had fun and learned about life with, and those are the experiences we want for Anna. We have so much more love to give, and are truly excited to help another child explore the world and feel loved in a secure and happy home. We feel blessed that you are reading this as you attempt to make the most important decision and gift you can ever give your child. We hope the story of our life -- past and present – helps you imagine the life and future your child would have with us.
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Hi Birthmom- I am Deb, and I am so grateful to you that you are reading about our family. I am the youngest of five children, have three sisters and one brother, and have lived on the East coast my whole life. My mother was the town clerk of our small town, and my father was the man who could fix anything you put in front of him. I spent much of my childhood riding and training horses. Now, when I have a few moments of quiet time, I like to read, cook, scrapbook, and make quilts. I also love being outside swimming, riding my bike, and boating with Lee and Anna. I am a huge nascar fan, and I like football too. I earned my master’s degree and graduated with Honors in nonprofit management in October of 2012. I invest time in volunteering in our community projects and am currently leading our local church stewardship committee. I am a stay at home mom, so I spend most of my time with Anna. Some of our favorite things to do together is cook, lots of arts and crafts, reading, playing outside, and having play dates with her friends. I try to keep Anna busy after preschool, so we go on many adventures to playgrounds, farms, and the beach. Anna especially loves her swimming and dance lessons. I believe that I am a good mom with so much more to give to another child- giving baths and reading stories before bed, wiping tears, working on homework, attended baseball or soccer practice, watching dance recitals, vacations at amusement parks- I could go on forever. More than anything, I can promise you that I will do my best to make sure your child is safe, feels secure and inspired, and above all- loved.
Hi Birthmom -- I am Lee and I am 38 years old. I grew up in North Carolina and South Carolina, and I have two sisters. My father owns his own advertising and web page design business, and my mother works at Macys in the children’s department which works our great since she loves to talk to people and shop for baby clothes. Growing up we were very close to our grandparents, aunts, and uncles and we spent many of our vacations with them too- especially family ski vacations. I spent much of my childhood exploring the beach and creeks of Charleston, SC with my friends after school, and loved water skiing. I also took flying lessons and made my first solo flight at the age of 14.
I work for a bank creating different types of business products, and designing the marketing for those products. As far as hobbies, I enjoy spending time with our family, as well as skiing and being on the ocean in our boat. I also like planting our small garden, improving our home, and fixing cars. One of my favorite things to do is taking our boat to a small island near our home, for a barbeque and swim with Anna and our friends. I also like big toys -- boats, cars, and my riding my three-wheeler. I work from home fours days a week so that I can be around Anna and Deb as much as possible. My extended family is extremely important to me - we call, Skype, or email with them several times a week. I have traveled all over the world, and can’t wait to show Anna and another child all of my favorite places.I believe I am a great dad. Anna has me wrapped around her little finger - and I love it! More than anything I want a sibling for her. I can’t wait to watch our children grow up and experience all of those firsts- walking, talking, going to school, driving a car, and getting married. Being a dad to many children has always been my dream, and I hope one day that I will have another child and Anna will have a little brother or sister.
We live on the ocean in a very safe town of 22,000 people. Our town is considered to have some of the best schools in the state- three elementary schools, plus the middle school and high school. There is also an Ivy league college here too that has a great theater department with plays and activities for kids and adults. There are four playgrounds in our town, and a very active parks and recreation department that has sports for children starting at the age of four. In the summer there is a farmer’s market in the center of town, and during the winter the town square is turned into an ice skating rink. Our town has the second largest library in the state, and it offers free toddler singing classes as well as many other reading and science programs. There is a three mile walking/biking path that is extremely safe for walks and kids riding their bikes. Within one hour of our house there is three state parks, and the largest city in the state is only 40 minutes away- great for the children’s museum, any type of restaurant you could want, and plenty of fresh seafood.
Our home has five bedrooms, so each child can have their own room, plus rooms for grandparents to come visit. We also have a child toy room and more grown-up game room with a pool table. We have 2 acres of land so there is plenty of room for making snowmen and sledding, and there is a play set in the back yard for swinging and playing in the sandbox. In the summer we have a small bonfire pit on the beach that is perfect for s’mores - Anna’s favorite summertime treat.
Behind our house there is a private dirt road that is safe for bike riding too. We enjoy getting together with our neighbors for local boat trips and barbeques. Anna considers the neighbors her Aunts and Uncles, and they enjoy spoiling her. We also have a group of six families that gets together a few times a month for activities such as Halloween trick or treating, an Easter egg hunt, a Christmas train ride, and a trip to a hotel with an indoor water park.
Our Extended Family
We have a large extended family, with several generations of grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins. Deb’s parents are deceased, but her sisters spend time with Anna, and enjoy her very much. Lee’s parents divorced when he was 13, but both are remarried and have been for 20+ years- they all get along well and attend family events together. Lee has two sisters, and both of them are married with children of their own. All of his parents are very active, and while they live too far for us to see them in a day trip, we see them in person every few months and skype with them weekly. Anna has five cousins ranging in ages from 2-21 yrs old. Lee’s grandmother is turning 85 years old this year, and his great grandmother just passed last year at the age of 105! We try to take large family trips so that Anna and her cousins can share their fun adventures with the whole family. Last fall we took a trip to an island in South Carolina and shared a beach house so that the cousins could play on the beach together, and this spring we had a large family reunion that included many second and third cousins.
All of our family is very excited and supportive of our decision to adopt. Lee’s youngest sister has a step-daughter and the family embraces her the same way they do all of the children. Our families have shared the joy of Anna’s life with us, as well as the three years of infertility and two miscarriages with us too. They are ready to speak with you and answer any questions you might have about their thoughts on our adoption process, and the joy another child will bring to our entire family.
Our Family Traditions
Many of our favorite traditions are connected to Christmas or food. The Saturday after Thanksgiving we go to the local tree farm and cut down our 7ft tree. We also purchase a 14ft tree for Lee, who has always dreamed of a large Christmas tree- that one we have to pre-order and cannot cut down ourselves. Christmas Eve day we make Christmas cookies for Santa, and leave reindeer food on the lawn. We also attend a Christmas Eve children’s pageant at the church. A few grandparents, and sometimes Aunts, Uncles, and cousins come to our house and stay with us during the Christmas holiday.
Deb does the cooking for Thanksgiving, and she starts on Tuesday making pies, homemade rolls, and stuffing. Her favorite Aunt, who is almost 80 and who she has spent Thanksgiving with since she was a baby, comes to our house too- along with other family members- each year a few different ones.
In October we always go to the largest state fair and see the animals, eat fried dough, and ride the amusement rides. During Halloween Anna attends the town costume parade, and then we go trick-or-treating with her friends.
In May we always plant the garden, and in August we make homemade spaghetti sauce with the vegetables. In October we go to the local apple orchard to pick apples, so that Deb and Anna make and freeze apple sauce.
This summer we are starting a new tradition of family camping trips. Now that Anna is older, we recently bought a large tent and plan to go camping- just a few overnights and places not too far from home. We like camping but also want the comforts of having a car, running water, and nice bathrooms- no real roughing it for us.
What Led Us To Adoption
In 2008, after Anna was born, we started trying to have another baby- we always knew we wanted 2 or 3 children. Deb had two miscarriages, and we completed 5 attempts at IVF including 6 months of weekly acupuncture. After three years of trying- getting our hopes up and then having them crushed, our doctor told us we had less than a 1% chance of getting pregnant. Knowing that we wanted Anna to have a brother or sister, and knowing that we have so much more love to give, we now hope to give that love to a child who needs our love too. We completed our home study and pray every day that we will find the next child that is meant to be in our lives.