Gretchen & Matt
Race of child interested in adopting:No Preference
Gender of child interested in adopting:Girl
Hello from Idaho! Thank you in advance for looking over our profile. We realize that you have many decisions to make during this challenging time, and we're grateful for the opportunity to help you get to know us better. We may not know you personally but know that we are praying for you to feel peace and comfort as you decide what is best for your life. Our names are Matthew and Gretchen. We have a wonderful son, Colin who is seven years old. We are thrilled to expand our family and know without a doubt that we are supposed to adopt. We look forward to being part of the process of adoption because it is a blessing for everyone: birth parents, adoptive parents, and above all a child who will feel an abundance of love.
Once upon a time a girl fell in love with a boy...so she moved to a different state just to get away from him. You see, that boy happened to be the brother of the girl's best friend, and that scared the girl. But it turns out that absence DOES make the heart grow fonder; it also turns out that it is AMAZING to marry into the family of one's best friend. Long story short, we are living our happily ever after! We always wanted children and were dismayed when we couldn't get pregnant. After seeking both infertility treatments and adoption, we got pregnant with our miracle child. Colin joined our family after we had been married for about 7 years. What a blessing! He makes us laugh every day. Family is the most important thing to us. Whether it be going on fun vacations like our recent trip to Disneyland or simply playing with our cat, Stormageddon Dark Lord of All, it is being with each other that brings us joy. Even though we are a happy family, we know we aren't complete. After much prayer and consideration we realize we are being led to adopt. We are excited to share our love with another child and consider adoption a great miracle for all involved. The child who joins our family will learn to laugh. The child will learn to love Persian cats. The child will grow up watching Doctor Who. The child will probably watch a bunch of other nerdy things as well. The child will be read to everyday. The child will have cousins close by to play with. The child will learn to appreciate music and art and literature, but most importantly, the child will be loved, cherished, and doted on. Matthew in Gretchen’s words: Matthew comes across as quiet and shy, but he is actually quite funny. Matt is more caring than anyone I know. Regardless of how tired he may be after a day on call or how hard things were at work, he always has a smile on his face when he gets home. He puts his family's needs above his own. He never misses an opportunity to help me or play with Colin. Matt is a family practice physician. His patients love him for being such a great listener. He works at a community health clinic treating the under-served. Matthew is very talented. He sings, plays the piano, and is now learning to play the cello. Matt is also pretty athletic, but these days his skills are used mainly playing soccer with Colin. Matt loves reading. When he gets some downtime he likes to open up a good fantasy or sci-fi novel. I'm pretty sure if Matt hadn't gone into medicine, he would have been a writer. Perhaps when he retires he'll write the next great American novel. I'm so happy I married this man. He is a magnificent father, and any child who follows his example will be able to do anything. Gretchen in Matt’s words: Sugar and spice and everything nice, with a jalapeno kick! Gretchen is compassionate, intelligent, caring, and gorgeous, and that isn't even what is most interesting about her! She studied English and Art in college and taught both subjects as a high school teacher. She left work after Colin was born, but she continues to pursue her passions. She organized a local book club and teaches community art classes for children. She recently began making pottery. Gretchen is also outrageously funny. She always knows what to say to lighten the mood. Her ready smile and easy laughter can brighten even the darkest day. I wish I could find the words to thank her for the thousands of little things she does each day to make our home a great place to live.
We are lucky to live in a beautiful home with four bedrooms and 3 bathrooms. It is nice to have enough space for us, Colin, the nursery and a separate guest room. We are a very musical family, so our home is frequently filled with the sounds of the piano or cello and singing. Our yard is nicely landscaped, leaving room for a seating area as well as place for a play set and grassy area. One of our favorite parts about where we live is being close to family. Each of us has a sibling who lives in town with their families, and we’re excited that Matt’s parents are moving here as well. We are lucky to live in such an awesome neighborhood. Our neighbors have become our friends, and we all support each other. We have a nice bike/walk path a couple blocks away that runs along a little creek. It’s lovely to go on family walks. We are also within walking distance of some nice parks. We especially enjoy roller blading at the park.
Our Extended Family
Our parents live just blocks apart and are great friends with each other. We like getting together for huge extended family gatherings like birthdays and holidays. We even participated in Relay for Life together. The main reason we moved back to Idaho after Medical School was so we could be near our extended family. Even though Colin has grown up as an only child, he has his cousins as best friends. We are grateful to have so many people who love and support us. They are just as excited as we are to add another baby to the family. We love going on family vacations with all of our extended family. Some of our favorites have been Disneyland, Disney Cruise, Yellowstone, and the Oregon Coast. We love going to Disneyland with Matt's family. And we had a ton of fun with Gretchen's family on a Disney Cruise and at the Oregon Coast. We are also lucky enough to have "Aunt Juju" who is like another mother.
Our Family Traditions
We have many traditions in our home. With holidays, many of our traditions are shared with our extended family. On Christmas Eve, we like to get together with the members of our family who live nearby and have a soup bar, play games, read Christmas stories, and get brand new pajamas. During the Christmas season Gretchen’s siblings have a special gift exchange. Instead of giving regular gifts to the family we have that year, we do a service project that year in that family’s name. When we have our gift exchange we give something to each other that explains the service that was performed. It is one of the most special parts of the season, and one that is in our minds all year as we focus on service. We also have hobbies we enjoy as a family. Our family loves playing games together and with friends. We love all types of card and board games. We also love watching movies and eating popcorn. We adore Doctor Who and enjoy watching it together. We like to spend time in our backyard playing badminton and roasting marshmallows. We are all fans of reading and read books aloud together each night. We read from the scriptures and from a book of choice prior to having a family prayer and giving good night hugs. It would be one thing if it stopped there, but it doesn’t. We continue to read individually as well. And now we have too many books to fit in our bookshelves. We have to put a limit on the time we spend at bookstores.
What Led Us To Adoption
Years ago, when we first learned that we had fertility issues, we pursued adoption. To help create our profile we purchased a stamp. On it was the phrase, “Adoption: Bound by Love. Joined by Hearts. Sent from Heaven, a gift from God.” Even after Colin was born, we kept the stamp. It spoke to our hearts. We have always known our family wasn’t complete, and even though we’ve tried different methods of conceiving more children, we now know there is a reason we kept that stamp, that its message has been so cherished. During the past several years we have had many spiritual experiences that made us realize we were supposed to adopt. We are looking forward to the joy that adoption brings. We are excited to be part of something far greater than ourselves, to bind our love and join our hearts with birth parents, that together we can welcome a heaven-sent gift from God.