Jennifer & Steve
Race of child interested in adopting:African American, Caucasian, Caucasian/Asian, Caucasian/Hispanic, Hispanic or South/Central American
Gender of child interested in adopting:No Preference
We hope you can feel what a huge blessing it is that you would even consider sharing in an adoption experience with us. Please accept our sincere gratitude. My name is Jennifer and Steve is my husband. We have one daughter who was placed in our arms by her amazing birth mother. It has been a great experience for all of us to have an open adoption. We would love to talk to you about the level of openness you would feel comfortable with. In our minds, you are the most generous and unselfish person on the planet to be able to choose to give your baby so much through adoption. We hope that you will feel the same peace and comfort in your decision as we do. We both have been touched deeply by experiences with adoption. We have eight family members and many friends who were adopted. Jennifer has two close friends who are birth moms. Jennifer’s friends have expressed some of their most tender feelings about their choice of giving their babies to another family. After trying various medical procedures and tests for infertility for five years with no success, we knew adoption was the perfect (though not easy) solution for us to have the family we always dreamed of.
Steve and I have been a loving team for over 10 years. We work very well together to accomplish our goals and have a lot of fun doing it! Our strongest desires and goals are the same and we think that is why our marriage is so strong. Spirituality, family, education, and recreation are some of the most important parts of our lives. I can't impress enough how important a father's role is in a child's life. Mothers are great, but a dad adds so much. If you want the best father for your baby, Steve is the one. I can't imagine anyone being a better daddy. He is so fun and playful with our daughter. He is gentle and sweet with her. They are best buddies and she has ultimate respect for him as her father. She has a wonderful example in him of how a strong, loving marriage should be and how a lady should be treated. You can see it in her eyes and the way she talks to him and snuggles with him. She trusts him and loves him more than any child I've ever seen with their daddy. See it for yourself. I'm really not exaggerating. Jennifer's passion in life is children and finds it very natural to be around them. She was a nanny for many years and has always done things in her life to prepare for motherhood such as volunteering at an adoption agency, taking parenting classes, and reading parenting magazines and books. She feels that becoming a mother was the greatest thing to ever happen to her and not a day goes by that she doesn't thank God for our birth mother and for our daughter. Even though in her mind parenting is a serious responsibility, she knows that part of teaching and learning is to just be silly together. Jennifer loves to sing and paid her way through college with a vocal scholarship. She enjoys the social sciences as well as legal studies much like Steve. She also enjoys all kinds of crafts and anything creative. Animals are another great love of Jennifer's. Most pictures of her growing up and even as an adult feature her with various animals.
We feel that we live in our dream house in a utopia of a neighborhood. We know and like all of our neighbors. We feel very safe in our home and community. Our homes are fairly close together with small yards, which is fine for us because we like to get out and about anyway. We have a park, church and school all within a block or two of our house. We live in a very good school district. Almost all of our neighbors have children between the ages of 0-7 years old which makes for fun neighborhood birthday parties, BBQ's, block parties, garage sales, and play dates. Our neighborhood is newer and very well maintained and clean. Our home is about 3600 square feet. We have 5 bedrooms and a large unfinished basement. Our plan is to create a home gym, movie theater, guest bedroom and large play area/game room in the basement. Since we have so many bedrooms, Allie and any child who is part of our family will have their own room. I love to decorate so our home so it feels put together and interesting. In our family room, we have brown and white zebra stripe/African decor with red highlights, a piano (Jenn plays a little), gas fireplace and we like movies so we have multiple shelves of movies in that room too. We have a formal dining room for having special holiday dinners and celebrating family with delicious meals that we enjoy cooking together. One of my favorite things about our home is our huge kitchen! All of our bedrooms are upstairs which gives a sense of security to have us all together and tucked in at night. Allie chose to have a lady bug bedroom. It was very fun to decorate her room. Our bedroom is a metallic color, medium blue and white with a mural of vines and leaves in those colors I painted on the ceiling and crystal chandeliers that I fell in love with. If we are lucky enough to adopt a baby girl, her nursery will be right next to our room and she will get the fairy princess room. I painted a mural on the wall in that room of a fairy land and little porcelain fairies are hanging around the room. If we are blessed with a boy, his nursery will be in the room right on the other side of our room. I plan to decorate that nursery with a transportation theme including model planes hanging from the ceiling, race car tracks on the walls and a train track going around the room. I have the bedding saved in my favorites ready to purchase. Currently one of our extra rooms serves as an office/craft room and the other room is an Eiffel tower/French decorated guest bedroom.
Our Extended Family
Most of Jennifer's family members live in Oregon. They come to visit and we go out to visit them too, so we usually see each other a few times a year. We also take advantage of Skype and phone calls to keep in touch. Even though we aren't close in proximity, we are close in heart. Most of Steve's family lives close by so we spend a lot of time together with them. We have Sunday dinner with them every week and also spend most holidays with them. They have always made traditions a big part of their family life. Now, I am included as part of that big and wonderful family. Most people I know complain about their in laws, but I love mine to pieces! I love that Allie has so much time to be with her cousins.
Our Family Traditions
Some of our favorite family times are sharing holiday traditions. We love to do Easter egg hunts with our nieces and nephews. We all love Halloween and being silly together dressing up. We have lots of fun family parties and activities to attend. Christmas is one of our biggest family holidays filled with traditions. Steve and I both love the tradition of decorating a Christmas tree, so why not double the fun? Every year we decorate two trees together. One is a colorful fun family tree with ornaments that we have accumulated in our travels and help us remember special achievements and memories. The other tree is a "Martha Stewart" matchy pretty tree. Taking family vacations is another of our favorite traditions. In the last few years we've gone to Disney World, The Bahamas, Hawaii, Oregon and all around Utah
What Led Us To Adoption
Since I was 10 years old, I knew adoption would be part of my life. I didn't know exactly how or why at that point, but I've always had a strong feeling towards it. I took high school and college classes and volunteered at an adoption agency to learn about the laws, how the system works, and parenting skills before I was even married. After Steve and I were married, we quickly learned that we both had fertility issues. Because of the strong feeling I had back when I was a little girl, it was an easy choice to turn to adoption and I wasn't as depressed or devastated as most people expected me to be. Steve's parents also had fertility issues and adopted two children before a miraculous pregnancy with him. There wasn't a doubt that adoption was what we needed. We know adoption isn't easy for you and on the flip side, it has been very difficult for us too. We waited for two years to be matched with Allie's birthmother with a few failed situations prior to that. With our adoption situation this time, we have been waiting over two years with several weird and hurtful situations. We've had women try to scam us multiple times and finally we were matched with a birthmother who we started really bonding to. Tragically, she was hit and killed by a car as she was walking across the street. We were devastated for her family as well as ourselves. We know from our experience with adopting Allie, no matter how difficult this process is, when the situation is right, it will happen and it will all be worth it. Our faith is strong and we have enough strength, love, and positivity to share with you as you may struggle as well.