Stephanie & Joey
Race of child interested in adopting:Caucasian, Caucasian/Asian, Caucasian/Hispanic, Caucasian/Native American, European, Eastern European/Slavic/Russian, Other
Gender of child interested in adopting:No Preference
We wanted to start off by saying “thank you” for taking the time to read through our profile. We know that the decision you have made to consider adoption didn’t come easy and we appreciate the opportunity to share our story with you.
My name is Stephanie & my husband is Joey. I am a Sales Executive with Travelers Insurance Company, in which I manage the State of MS for their small business unit. My husband is a Musician as well as a Barista. Both of our jobs allow us to have flexible schedules. I actually work from home with limited travel days, while he travels as few days a week; but our schedules complement one another.
We have known each other for over 10 years as friends, however didn’t start dating until 2012. We were recently married on July 18th, 2014. Our 1st year of marriage was probably one of the most eventful of our lives as we both wanted children & immediately started trying using a fertility doctor. Unfortunately, we weren’t having any luck. We were about to do IVF (Invetro) when I discovered a small cyst in my breast. So instead of a baby, we got Cancer. My husband & I discussed adoption, even though we were going to try to still retrieve my eggs, as we had 2 of our best girlfriends offer to surrogate for us. The embryos didn’t make it from day 5 to day 6, thus losing our chance to have a baby. We had been praying over what to do and literally the next day, my best friend stumbled over Everlasting Adoptions by accident. She immediately sent the information to me and without hesitation, I began filling out the application. We feel that God closed one door and opened another because he has a special child picked out just for us that needs us. I know it probably seems strange, but my husband and I are already in love with a child we don’t even know yet, but are so excited to meet one day.
I hope that this tells you a little overview about us and why we want to adopt. We are looking forward to meeting you and getting to know you as well. Thank you in advance for your consideration of us as adoptive parents.
Wow, so the hard part, getting to know us through a letter/profile; there is so much we want to tell you about us. So we will start with how we met. I moved to Jackson, MS about 11 years ago. I met my now husband through some mutual friends. We remained in touch over the years and in November of 2012, we ran into each other again and something was different this time. We went on a 1st date and were together from that point forward. We had finally found the person we were supposed to be with and we feel that us starting as friends first allowed us to be ourselves with each other from day one.
My husband is that guy in a room that you always see smiling; the one you just want to get to know because he can make you laugh like no other and feel comfortable as if he has known you for years. He is the “thinker,” “musician,” “slow down and enjoy the moment” type. He enjoys spending time learning, not just music, but learning about anything. He loves when one of our nieces or nephews says “hey Jojo can you tell me about …” and off he goes explaining or looking up the information to help them. Joey enjoys writing songs and working to increase his skill as a bass guitarist. He is a musician by trade and to keep himself busy during the week he works as a Barista at Cups.
So me, I am the person who likes to be going and have my hand in a lot of projects at a time. I was raised by an “insurance family,” thus choosing to go into the insurance business myself. I am the “busy,” “non-stop,” “let’s do something,” “creative & energetic” type. I love having people around, especially my nieces and nephews and entertaining our family and friends. I am all about a project, whether it is gardening or painting or planning a wedding (including floral designs) or just rearranging the living room. Although I probably sound like a busy bee, I have worked very hard to maintain a good work/life balance.
In closing, I wanted to share a few things Joey and I enjoy doing together. Probably one of our favorite things to do together is cook. We love to try out new recipes or create our own. It is probably our favorite because it is when we get to “really talk” and find out what’s happened that day or discuss things we have had to table until there was more time. We enjoy spending time with our families, holidays, birthdays, school plays or times “just because.” Exercise is another activity we do together. While he is a much better runner than I am, we still have fun passing each other in the neighborhood as his long legs stride by. Traveling has always been a part of our lives and we include each other on our work trips as well as making time to find time to get away just the two of us. I hope this will give you a little insight to us, I feel like I could’ve written much more, but I know that will come in time as we get to know one another.
We live in a 3 bedroom/2 bath house in a small neighborhood of about 30 houses in Mississippi. We are lucky to live in such close proximity to a drug store, grocery, many restaurants and best of all, close to my sister. There are also local daycare centers and the schools are not far. Although we are close to my sister, she and her husband live about 5 miles away. We are currently looking at houses in that area to potential move to in the next 1-2 years. We will still maintain ownership of our current house as the profit of rent made from this house will easily pay for the day-care of our choice & other expenses. The reason we are looking in this area is that they have one of the top public school systems in the State and we would like our child to go there, to receive the best education possible! In addition the Church we attend is located here too.
Our home is 2 story with the master bedroom downstairs & 2 spare bedrooms upstairs; one used as an office as I work from home & the other will be the nursery (until we move into a single story home, in which we are currently looking). We have a separate living, dining, and kitchen area. Our yard is completely fenced by a privacy fence with plenty of room for play. Also, the crime is VERY low, which was one of the reasons that drove me to purchase a home here versus our neighboring city.
Our Extended Family
Between us, we have 10 nieces and nephews. I was named GoGo by the oldest nephew and when Joey came along, they started calling him JoJo instead of Uncle Joey. In addition to our nieces & nephews, we have countless friends whose kids also call us by those names and consider us family as we do them. Joey and I do not just want to be GoGo & JoJo; we want to be a Momma & Daddy. We know that our baby would receive so much love from both our families & our friends.
We are the kind of family that “actually likes each other.” We always celebrate holidays, birthdays, victories, and losses together. My Daddy always said family is the one thing that you can always depend on and that has stuck. Even at our age, we still tell our parents we love them when we hang up the phone or leave to head home. We still kiss our parents good night if they are staying with us or we are staying with them. We sit down as a family to eat dinner and talk about our day, even in this hectic crazy world, we make time.
Our Family Traditions
Joey and I grew up in different towns, with different lifestyles, but ironically with very similar family upbringings. Family has and always will be a very important part of our lives.
When Joey and I started dating, we realized how similar our families were and how similar our upbringings were. Our families celebrate most everything together. Therefore we had to arrange our schedules at holidays so that we could see both sides. We try to always make each other’s birthday events, but of course sometimes there are scheduling conflicts. We are the kids that actually “like” our families. What I mean by that is, we like to actually do things together that are not required so to speak. We enjoy just going to visit, having dinner, attending school functions of the nieces & nephews and occasionally taking family trips.
One thing that is different about us than most families today, is that we will have dinner together without our phones. This is our time to talk as husband & wife, or if we are with other family members tell stories, laugh, joke and just plain catch up with each other’s lives. Also, we were both raised that when you leave you tell your parent “bye I love you,” check in when we got where we were going, and never go to bed angry. We still respect our parents in that way to this day, but the same token Joey & I have the same respect with one another. To steal from what one of my sister’s best friends said, “We never miss a moment to make a memory.” We feel family time and family values are very important and will continue this valued tradition with our child/children.
What Led Us To Adoption
As soon as we got married, we immediately started trying to have a baby. We already discussed that we wanted a family and with me being older, we knew our window of opportunity was closing. We had been going to a fertility doctor and were about to start the IVF process when we found out I had breast cancer. Because my cancer was the most common, estrogen & progestrone positive, it was treatable, but that meant I would never be able to carry a baby. They tried to save my eggs, as we had two close friends offer to surrogate for us, but were unsuccessful; our embryos only made it to day 5 and they had to make it to day 6. We had already decided that if the egg retrieval didn’t work, that our next step was adoption. In our hearts, our baby doesn’t have to physically come from our bodies, but we know there is a baby out there that needs our love and to have a baby of our own to love and to share our lives with would fulfill the last part of our hopes and dreams; as our first dream was to find each other. The gift of a baby is something we have not and will not ever stop fighting or praying for.