- Posted on September 20, 2017
- in Birthmother Experiences
Birth mother’s think about having an adoption plan for many different reasons. When Amy found out she was pregnant with her 5th child, she knew that parenting another child was not something she felt she could take on. Between meeting the needs of her 4 children in addition to her work schedule and struggles she was already facing, Amy reached out to Everlasting about beginning her adoption plan. Amy said that the path she had chosen for her son was rough, but it was worth it when she connected with our adoptive parents, Sonya & Roderick. No one would be able to predict the similarities that her baby boy and adoptive father Roderick had in common. Not only was Roderick adopted, but he was also the 5th child, just like his son Apollos. While Amy worked through her plan, she said that she felt supported by the staff at Everlasting and felt that they were always transparent and honest about the process and their families. She absolutely fell in love with Sonya & Roderick and felt their loving personalities from the start. If Amy could give one piece of advice to other birth moms, it would be to stay strong and keep pushing through even if it hurts. At Everlasting, we truly care so deeply for our birth mothers and are grateful to have been a pillar of support for Amy during her adoption.
- Posted on September 14, 2017
- in Everlasting Birth Announcements
Good things come to those who wait! The wait may be unbearable at times and your destiny can be uncertain. Just when she had thought she had run out of perseverance, Courtney received the call that a birth mom was interested in getting to know her. Courtney had already experienced much heartache with a failed adoption. Much to her surprise, her birth mom was due in just a few short weeks, and it seemed like there would not be enough time to prepare. Due to the devastation she faced with her failed adoption months earlier, she cautiously dipped her toes into the waters of this connection and held her breath. Courtney’s life completely changed on July 19th, when her daughter Olivia Taylor was born. The journey may have been excruciatingly difficult at times, but when all 19 inches and 7lbs of Olivia were placed in Courtney’s arms, we are certain that the rough road made sense, and the path was clear. This beautiful baby girl was the daughter that Courtney was meant to have. Adoption can be trying, but anything worth having is worth waiting for! Courtney and Olivia, we are honored to be a part of your life and your story, and we can only imagine the adventures that lay before you both!
- Posted on September 12, 2017
- in Success Stories
Samantha and Jeremy came to Everlasting Adoptions after struggling with infertility for a few years. They had always felt as if their family was incomplete, so they turned to adoption. In March, only 10 months after signing on with Everlasting, they were connected with birth mom, Crystal. Four short months later, they welcomed their baby boy, Nathan into the world.
If they could offer one piece of advice to other adoptive couples, it would be that despite the stress you may be feeling, rest assured that Everlasting Adoptions will be by your side every step of the way. They were so wonderful, very helpful and empathetic.
Thank you Samantha and Jeremy for letting us be a part of your adoption journey and play such an important role in helping to complete your family.
- Posted on September 6, 2017
- in Resources
Adoption has become more main stream with the help of celebrity adoptions and popular TV shows, like This is Us, but for too many people , it remains a topic they know little about. This can be reflected in the words and phrases used when speaking about adoption. Most of the time, off-the-cuff remarks or poorly chosen words are not used maliciously, but are indicative of the lack of knowledge surrounding the adoption process.
Words and phrases can evoke negative feelings when used in the context of adoption. The opposite holds true when careful consideration is used to choose positive and respectful adoption language. The National Council for Adoption has put together this helpful list of commonly used adoption language with more positive replacements.
|Accurate Language||Less-Accurate Language|
|Birthparent/Biological parent||Real parent, natural parent|
|Birth child||Own child, real child, natural child|
|My child||Adopted child, own child|
|Person/Individual who was adopted||Adoptee|
|Born to unmarried parents||Illegitimate|
|Make an adoption plan, choose adoption||Give away, adopt out, give up, put up|
|To parent the baby/child||To keep the baby|
|Child in need of a family||Adoptable child/unwanted child|
|Child who has special needs||Handicapped child, hard to place|
|Was adopted||Is adopted|
|Choosing an adoption plan||Giving away your child|
|Finding a family to parent your child||Putting your child up for adoption|
|Parenting the baby/child||Keeping your baby|
|Confidential adoption||Closed adoption|
|Unintended pregnancy||Unwanted/problem pregnancy|
|Fully-disclosed adoption||Open adoption|
Patricia Irwin Johnston, an infertility and adoption educator, describes respectful adoption language as, “vocabulary about adoption which has been chosen to reflect maximum respect, dignity, responsibility and objectivity about the decisions made by birthparents and adoptive parents in discussing the family planning decisions they have made for children who have been adopted”. So when Grandma Betty innocently asks why your adopted daughter’s “real parents gave her up”, try to not get offended and offer her examples of a more positive and respectful way to approach the subject of adoption.
- Posted on August 30, 2017
- in Everlasting Family Updates
- Posted on August 29, 2017
- in Success Stories
When Jonathan and I first met, within the first week of talking we discussed the topic of adoption. We contacted Everlasting adoptions in October 2016. After speaking with Carol, we got a strong sense of love from her and we knew this was the right agency and decision. Our home study was completed in December and in late February we got a call from Lisa letting us know a birth mother was interested in us. We instantly connected with our birth mother and knew this was God's plan. Throughout the next 5 1/2 months we talked daily and FaceTime twice a week and would drive up to visit her once a month. We were very blessed that she only lived a few hours away. Our adoption did have its ups and downs, but looking at our precious baby boy made it all worth it.
The staff at Everlasting Adoptions went above and beyond our expectations. Lisa is a true gem and was our rock during the many ups and down of our journey. She always made us feel like a priority no matter what day or time. Her constant words of encouragement and advice, guided us in times of need. Her passion for wanting to see through a successful adoption was very apparent. We felt as though she truly has a love for adoption and was with us every step of the way.
If you're looking for an agency who does everything in their power to have a successful adoption and truly cares, then we encourage you to reach out to Everlasting Adoptions. Our dreams have become a reality because of the experienced loving staff members at this agency. It's because of them we have such a beautiful son in our lives. A big thank you to everyone who contributed in our adoption journey. Words can't express how thankful and happy we are!