- Posted on June 15, 2017
- in Resources
Webinar: Paid Family Leave Application Process for
On behalf of the California Employment Development Department, we are pleased to invite you to an informational webinar about navigating the Paid Family Leave application process for filing a bonding claim.
Research has shown that the application process for Paid Family Leave is one of the biggest barriers to eligible individuals using their benefits. In order to increase awareness and usage, we hope to help you get more informed about the application process for bonding claims in case you get questions from clients, employees, patients, and/or community members.
This webinar will cover the application process for filing a claim electronically or by mail, the documentation that is needed, and where claimants can go for assistance and more information.
Join us Tuesday, June 20, 2017, from 10 a.m. to 10:30 a.m. PT
Please note, we strongly encourage participants to call into the webinar for a clearer connection.
- Posted on June 11, 2017
- in Resources
CreatingAFamily.org put together an excellent, age appropriate list of books that will help introduce the concept of adoption and birth parents to younger children. These books are geared toward 3-8 year olds and can open the adoption dialogue between parents and children.
- Posted on May 31, 2017
- in Adoption in the News
The Adoption Tax Credit is in jeopardy. There is a new legislative proposal to eliminate the Adoption Tax Credit, which would make it impossible for some families to adopt. Take a few minutes to reach out to your local Legislators and let them know how important the Adoption Tax Credit is.
- Posted on May 25, 2017
- in Everlasting Family Updates
Thank you, Beth and Michael, for sharing this wonderful update with us. Christopher is such a handsome boy and we can’t believe he is already 2!
What can I say..things are going GREAT! Christopher is a complete joy. As you can see from his pictures, he is a very handsome fella, but that is nothing compared to his personality. He is silly, smart, daring, brave and fun. It can be exhausting, but we wouldn't change a thing!
Two weeks ago he broke his femur! It was terrible. But even during that, he was flirting with nurses, making silly faces at Mom and Dad, and just handling it like a champ. And despite being in a Spica cast, which doesn't allow him much movement, and certainly no walking or even standing, he is all smiles and sweetness.
What was very touching is that his birth mom, whom we still are in contact with, sent me a lovely text after I told her abut the broken bone. Basically, she assured me that I am a good mom and that she wishes she was as willing to let her kids be adventurous and explore their worlds they way we do. She said she hopes this little blip on the radar doesn't change the way we parent him. It is a lot of stress to not only worry about your child, but wonder if his tummy-mommy sees you as a less than stellar parent.
I know I am gushing, but Mike and I just look at each other every day and ask, "How did we get so lucky with this guy?" He is even better than anything I could have imagined, and we always say, our own DNA could not have made a better kid.
We can't thank Everlasting enough. As time was ticking on our contract, I know Ceal worked diligently to help us become parents. He was sort of our last shot. And while it was a difficult process to go through, as we had a couple fall through, I would do it again in a heartbeat to have this guy in our lives.
Beth and Mike
- Posted on May 10, 2017
- in Resources
You’ve been waiting to be matched with a birth mom for 6 months, 1 year, or maybe even longer. The wait is agonizing and seems like it will never end. Now you have to deal with yet another reminder of this; Mother’s Day. The card display at the local grocery store and commercials on TV with mothers snuggling their new babies simply rub salt in the wound. Yet another Mother’s Day will come and go and you still don’t have that baby you so desperately want. How do you navigate the conflicting emotions of this widely celebrated day?
Use this opportunity to connect with other women in your situation. Don’t forget there are many women out there going through exactly what you are on this day. Find an online Facebook or support group and use it as chance to vent without feeling guilt. You will find comfort knowing you are not alone in your feelings and there is no shame in how you feel. You may even learn what other women do to help themselves cope on particularly difficult days, such as Mother’s Day. Refer to our blog post to find an online support group.
Avoid Awkward Situations
Only you can gauge how personally upsetting it will be for you to be around others celebrating this day. Brunch with the family on Mother’s Day may be fine for some woman, where as it might trigger a lot of sad emotions for someone else. If you feel like avoiding a situation all together would be the right decision for you, honesty is the best policy. Explain to your loved ones how you are feeling and why you won’t be attending an event. You may be surprised by how understanding people are to your circumstance. If you are faced with a less than sympathetic response, just remember you are doing what is best for you and anyone who truly cares about you will understand that.
Do Something Special for Yourself
You may feel like you have no reason to celebrate on Mother’s Day, but your journey to motherhood certainly deserves recognition. Use this day as a chance to treat yourself to something you normally wouldn’t. Get a mani/pedi, buy yourself something expensive, go out for a special dinner, or spend all day in bed binge watching your favorite TV show. Don’t ever feel like what you are going through doesn’t deserve celebrating. Strength, perseverance, and overwhelming love aren’t qualities only mothers possess; as you exhibit these traits every single day, while you wait for the baby that was meant for you. Take a moment to pat yourself on the back for this. YOU DESERVE IT!
While the staff at Everlasting Adoptions think of our adoptive families every day, we are especially thinking of our waiting adoptive mothers this weekend.